Written by Teresa Goodnight
One month shy of 36 years, that’s how long Cheryl Bauman, now 72, has been operating the Crisis Pregnancy Outreach (CPO) in Tulsa.
Cheryl said, “In the beginning, we had no idea it would become a large, multi-faceted ministry. We just put one foot in front of the other and started walking. Immediately, God brought us a teen having twins. She stayed with a family and they mentored her. Then, things just grew from there.”
Cheryl’s take is that people just have to be available. She said, “God doesn’t call the equipped. He equips those He calls.” She continued, “People get overwhelmed that they need to write these policies up right, have 20 meetings and maybe they’ll be ready. Usually those people just don’t get it off the ground. Sometimes you just have to say we’re willing and away you go.”
That’s what she did. Now, CPO has so many things they offer–everything from parenting education for girls to helping with adoptions. Girls can even see a licensed therapist for free and then, they can continue to do so for the rest of their lives, if they want.
The seniors of Tulsa continue to lead the way with their outreach ministries to our community. Cheryl said. “We’re not driven by money, because no one gets a salary. At CPO, we’re all volunteers. Each and every one of us has a heart to help women and babies God has placed in our path.” CPO doesn’t factor in age, ethnicity, spiritual background–they just want to help with unplanned pregnancies.
They aren’t there to judge, preach or pry. They simply want to help.
Help women discover the pregnancy options available and help pregnant women move forward successfully.
Cheryl says the women who come in are assigned a Christian mentor, who becomes their friend. They can call her day or night to hang out or to go to dinner together. Cheryl says, “Many of the girls who enter our program don’t have moms or they don’t have one who was invested in their lives. Many of them need a woman they can talk to about general things of life.”
Cheryl said, “There are so many opportunities for people to volunteer in our organization and make a difference. We are always needing mentors. Usually those range in age from 25 and up. For a 15 year old girl, a 25 year old mentor has a lot of valuable experience to share.” Cheryl said, “We’ve had women in their 70’s take on someone to mentor. They are happy to pour into a woman’s life and have so much wisdom to offer the girls.” Cheryl continued, “We are always needing women to drive women to their appointments–once a week or once a month. There’s usually 24 hours notice and if it won’t work for the volunteer, we just call someone else. It’s really a low pressure place to take part! We even have receptionist positions for just 2 hours a week. There are so many ways to get involved.”
Cheryl said, “I always loved driving the girls. You always have a captive audience. You just sit in the car and visit. It makes such a difference when you are really investing in these other people’s lives. It’s what God calls us to do. It’s amazing to see these girls be transformed.” Cheryl went on, “Sometimes they come in so broken and hardened. Then, over time, to see their hearts become soft and eager for the things of the Lord, completely transformed, there’s nothing quite like that.”
Right now, Cheryl is searching for a house mom for their Sapulpa home. Cheryl said, “We own a home we bought in 2000, in Sapulpa. We can have 6 girls there comfortably or 8 in a pinch. It’s a beautiful home. So, hopefully, we will be opening that again soon.” Cheryl said the house mom does live-in 24 hours a day. They are really looking for a woman who is a nurturer. “It’s the biggest thing,” said Cheryl. “These women need someone to really care for them and show them love. Many have never experienced that kind of care” she said. For the ones keeping their children, there is government assistance and other programs, but for those choosing adoption, Cheryl said, “They have no place to go. The vision was that they would have a home after they gave birth to recover and to heal. It’s been so successful.”
One story, a girl named Mary, who was homeless and had several children she had placed for adoption. “After she picked her last family,” said Cheryl, “We asked Mary to come live in the home. She reminded us she had her tubes tied. So, no more babies. She just wanted to get back on the streets. She was a drug addict. We told her that we knew. We didn’t want anything from her. We just wanted to care for her as she recovered from the C-section. She finally agreed, but said, emphatically, she was only going to be there for 2 weeks. After a year, she moved out, eventually married, and now leads a beautifully successful life in South Tulsa. In fact, I had the pleasure of attending her celebration of being 10 years sober this past December. She still can’t believe it herself. That’s why we do this.”
Cheryl and I talked about their stats, as they have helped over 1,000 women in the last two years. Cheryl agreed, “Sometimes in the Christian population, we get wrapped up in those numbers. They do sound nice and they are incredible, but to even just have ONE miracle like Mary, that’s why we’re here. That’s what Jesus did” she ended.
The age of women being helped in the last years has increased into their 20’s and 30’s. So, their reach continues to expand. They just seek to be there for women, with love, without judgement.
It’s a beautiful picture of being Christ in the world. The lives changed, the one life changed, that’s what it’s all about.
Cheryl said they host a large gala in the spring to raise funds. There’s a huge silent auction, a live auction with Jay Litchfield, who donates his time to so many charities. Cheryl said, “There’s usually one shout out by Jay, at the end of the evening. One year he asked what we owed on the home for the women. We raised the funds that night to pay it off. It’s just exciting to see what God brings to help us meet the needs of these women.” Cheryl went on, “The last shout out, we started a scholarship fund and we’re sending our girls to dental hygiene school, to TCC, and they are becoming women capable of supporting themselves and their children.” Cheryl couldn’t stop sharing all of the ways they are touching women, even though she was interviewing from out of town. Her 27th grandchild had just been born and she was helping with all the kiddos in the house as her daughter recovered. Her energy at 72 is enviable to say the least!
I asked Cheryl about her plans, as she had a birthday since the first time we talked. Cheryl said, “I can’t imagine stopping. I will say to Stephanie Johnson, who runs adoption, ‘Am I still relevant?’ She tells me the girls still love my involvement. I can’t fathom sitting at home and doing nothing. That’s why I keep pushing.” In the fall when we spoke, she thought she could continue to volunteer until 75. So, I asked her if that was still the plan. She fired back with passion, “I’m pretty healthy. I’ve been thinking about it. I think I can make it until 80 now. Why would I not keep doing it?” I wholeheartedly agreed with her. Why wouldn’t she?
The conversation turned immediately to seniors and the amazing impact they can have. Cheryl said, “Volunteering with these girls will absolutely revitalize their lives with energy and strength they didn’t even know they had. I see so many people just sit down in retirement and that was not God’s plan for us. I encourage people to come and get involved. Come to a support group meeting. Sit there and hear the girls’ stories. See if you don’t catch the fire.” Cheryl has seen women come to the meeting, then think to themselves, “I just love her. I could have her in my home for dinner.”
Cheryl finished, “There’s just a connection that happens. Do what you are passionate about with what God has given you.
Because being a senior doesn’t mean you stop being a part of things that are important to God.” †
If you would like to explore how you MIGHT get involved, reach out to Jennifer Brown at 918.346.4426 today or check out www.crisispregnancyoutreach.org. Don’t wait until tomorrow. Tomorrow becomes next week. Then next week becomes next year. Do it today!
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March 30, 2019
Crisis Pregnancy Outreach Gala